‘I am getting bogged down.’

I can empathize with your struggle. When even one unpleasant interaction lingers in our minds, it can feel like it taints the rest of the day—or even the week. I’ve been there, too, and I know how exhausting it can be.

Here’s a mantra I often remind myself of: “There are no problems, only tasks to be completed.” What this means is that when something bothers us, it’s usually because we haven’t taken clear, purposeful action to address it—or, alternatively, accepted it as something beyond our control.

Let me break this down:

1. Identify What’s Really Bothering You

When something keeps you up at night or pulls your focus, ask yourself:

• Why does this situation upset me?

• Is there something specific I wish were different?

• Can I do something to change it?

If there’s a tangible action you can take—whether it’s clarifying expectations with a customer, seeking support, or setting boundaries—define it and make it your next step. Taking even small, actionable steps can help alleviate the tension you feel.

If the situation is entirely out of your control, the next step is acceptance. This doesn’t mean you’re okay with it—it just means you acknowledge it as part of the landscape you’re navigating.

2. Change How You Engage

People who “let things roll off their shoulders” often view challenges with a broader perspective. Sometimes, this means lowering your expectations about how others behave. For example:

• If a customer is upset, remind yourself that their frustration is about their experience—not a personal reflection on you.

• Ask yourself, “Will this matter to me a year from now?” This shift can make it easier to focus on what truly matters.

3. Take a Step Back and Reflect

When tensions run high, it helps to pause and revisit your broader values and purpose. Ask yourself:

• What truly matters to me?

• What kind of person do I want to be in challenging situations?

• How does this moment fit into the bigger picture of my life and goals?

Writing down your thoughts can be incredibly clarifying. Reflection doesn’t solve the immediate frustration, but it provides perspective, helping you reframe situations in a way that feels less overwhelming.

4. Be Kind to Yourself

You mentioned admiring those who can let things go. Remember, they may be working through their own challenges behind the scenes. The goal isn’t to emulate them perfectly—it’s to find strategies that work for you.

If you make the effort to understand what’s bothering you, take meaningful action where possible, and let go of what you can’t control, you’ll find it easier to navigate these moments. And, importantly, give yourself grace when things still feel hard—this is a lifelong practice, not a quick fix.

YS

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