Dear Yogesh,

Thank you so much for your thoughtful and affirming response to my query on ‘nasty manager.’ To clarify, my instincts are leading me to let this manager go. After reflecting on the situation further, I realize that his response was a reflection not only of his attitude toward the team but also of his lack of responsibility and understanding of the role he’s supposed to play. The fact that he pointed out my value of fairness as a defense for his toxic behavior was both shocking and a clear indication that he has no intention of changing.

I’ve documented his behavior and performance, and while the process may be different in the UK, I plan to follow the necessary steps to part ways with him. It’s unfortunate, but I know that I cannot allow this kind of environment to continue, especially given how hard I’ve worked to build a culture of support and accountability.

Your reminder about the importance of having values as a guide has reinforced my resolve. I’ve worked hard to create an environment based on consistency, civility, accountability, and fairness, and I need to ensure that these values are upheld, even if it means difficult decisions like this one.

I do wonder how he got the job too, and it's a good question to ask during the exit conversation. But I think this is one of those moments when, as you say, I need to lean on my values and make the right call. Thank you for your perspective—it’s helpful to have that affirmation.

With gratitude,
Stephan